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Anger To Cover Sadness

My girlfriend is a lovely person, beautiful, someone I can laugh with, have a good time, just be happy with. I'm completely in love... But she has a temper, and it can be triggered by the smallest comment, that would be casual to someone else. She has a history of family abuse, family dysfunction (and it still continues), she's been raped, beat by boyfriends, when she was younger she experimented with drugs, everything imaginable and terrible has happened to her, and continues. She will not see a doctor, and explains to me that her anger is not really anger, but sadness. Also she doesn't want to get angry, but she does and can not control it. I myself used to have an anger problem, but I over came it when I was younger, but unfortunately do not know how to help her, and I've been trying for 2 years :( Is there anything I can do that does not include medical help?

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